maanantai 16. lokakuuta 2023

Some social eye to untie tangles

 There aren't such thing as a personally typical style to do the same thing. If one looks different, one is doing some other thing, for example ways of doing are different or one's values are different or one has a different amount of experience or the social relations or cultures are different. 

When people are over 20 years old and do not live with their parents anymore, they typicslly aren't interested in associating much with their parents. So they oppose such and look bored and fed up and try just handle the practical sides of the matters at hand and try even aggressively protect their own personal space and freedom against the mischievous attemots of others to cheat their mom, dad, childhood relatives or other youth environment to treat them like babies when they look happier on their own so that the childhood environment thinks they look inviting and mistake them for the professional younger generation admirers that they have later found as their "children" which also women's magazines talk about. The adult children are forced by others to associate with their parents etc just in dealing with matters like asking money help when in need, being referred to as relative even though not getting along as friends or the like, being co.pared with them, being seen in a landscape with them evdn if ghey do not associate at all ever and even if they like different styles, professions, cultures, social ways, values, polutical views etc. 

Some people do not understand or know that many of their later years presumed relatives are other people who like their company, like theur way of lufe, skills etc, even their career is a new refrwshing thing to those presumed relatives, while their real relatives got fed up and went somewhere elsewhere where life was interesting and refreshing and friendlily much more of their own kind. So when such people meet their own relative, they look first at some side still friendly and happy and kind of soft like people used to be where they lije to be, but then when the old relative tries to push the social relation to more clise, they turn to say "No. Absolutely No!" or the like, unlike the prifessilnal admurers and unlike the pictures painted by women's magazines. Yet these people are marked many times in many ways real relatives, so there is no right to attack them like a thaiboxing kick to the stomach, lije a big piece of wood hitting a cushion, the air pressing out of lungs and the person bent double. That is not what is meant by mitherly behaviour, that is not what a mither, father or their present day social contacts have the right to. Neither have they the right to attack the loved ones or friends or admurers or good willing ok environment of their adult relatives, not even via others and no right to spy on them, since more distant relationships would be clearly seen in not knowing about the later years of the childhood relatives or other younger years near environment. And so new admirers & other new people would better discern whom they are interested in. Relatives often have similar sounding strenghts which have a very fifferent content.